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Ford in 1919
Henry Ford is guilty of many things and one of those things is some great quotes.
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Everest. I am not going there.
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Branson reveals details of yet another adventure-based goal
Ford in 1919
Henry Ford is guilty of many things and one of those things is some great quotes.
Everest. I am not going there.
Branson reveals details of yet another adventure-based goal
Robert H Schuller – The man behind the quote
About 4 years ago, I was met by the beery breath of a drunken man at the bar. He opened his mouth and said, “You know, I could have been something in the music industry” I was intrigued. I asked him why he might think that. He said that over the years, he was always able to predict what might be a hit, just from the first few bars. Being in his mid 60s, he had predicted that the Rolling Stones, Led Zeppelin and Pink Floyd would all be famous long before the prophecy came to be true. He said he would have loved to do that in the business.
So the question was, why didn’t he become something in the music industry? I asked him this and he thought long and hard and couldn’t really say why. I asked him what he had done to try and get into the music business and he just looked blank. Going very quiet indeed, he took his beer away from the bar. I suspect the answer to what action had he taken to realise his dream, was, none at all.
Why didn’t he at least try something to at least make his dream a possibility? I suspect that it was the fear of failure. When we follow our dreams, we fear that we will fail. That fear is so scary at times that it can stop us from trying. In fact it can be so paralysing and after a while, we stop trying anything at all.
In a world of constant media noise, where photoshopped, bearded startups rule the roost and pulled-pork hipsters, cashing in on kickstarter projects date beautiful and successful musicians thriving on our screens with songs we have heard before; it leads to the only conclusion that we are at a point where most of us have stopped having dreams altogether. As musicians, is there any point in trying to get a record deal? Is there any money to be made in music? There are so many questions and so few answers.
The only answer is for our dreams to become more and more bizarre and outlandish. Only then will our true inspiration be revealed. Our true inspiration lies in doing the things we love in a way that suits who we really are. We need to serve the community to which we truly belong with our inspiration. So, it is time to relaunch the question with a refreshed inspiration. ‘What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?’ Some things are worth failing at, after all.
What great thing would you attempt if you knew you could not fail? Robert H. Schuller
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There are times in our musical or performing lives when we have to audition to get the parts/places or opportunities we would like. It can be a bit of a minefield and for some of us, it can be so nerve-wracking that we avoid auditions altogether. What is it about auditions that makes them so scary? Is the experience we see on X-Factor typical of all auditions?
I have written some examples of the approaches people have to auditions. Some are comic but I then pick out some key powerful tips at the end of the article.
So which one did you identify best with? If you, like me, found that there were various parts you resonated with from all 4 approaches, then hopefully it will give you a clearer idea of what you really want to do.
Tips from my 4 approaches:
Tips from the Gung Ho Auditioner
1. Know that auditions are a little bit of a lottery. So book a number of auditions to get experiences and maximise your opportunities. Know that auditions are not the only way to get work.
2. Pick music or audition pieces that you love but do make sure that this will be appropriate for the part or opportunity for which you are auditioning. Check the requirements.
3. Saying F*** it to yourself after the audition can be quite a powerful thing. Try it, you may like it and it may help you relieve tension! It will also help you prepare for the next part. If you fall off a horse, get straight back on.
Tips from the Forensic Auditioner
4. Finding out exactly what you are auditioning for is important. Do you actually want it? Do not waste time auditioning for things you do not want or will not help you progress to where you want to go.
5. Finding an appropriate audition piece is important but if you have to prepare something which is totally outside your area, then this could be a sign that the part may not be right for you.
6. Finding out about the interview panelists is ok but not worth spending huge amounts of time over. Time spent practicing and finding other future auditions and opportunities is valuable.
7. Having a few good questions is valuable but there is no need to ask questions for the sake of it.
8. Rejection is nothing personal. Understanding what the panel was really looking for is something you may never know. If you can get feedback and you want it, get feedback. If not, just ask yourself, ‘What did I learn from this experience?’ and move on.
9. Dissecting an experience in great detail is rarely worth it and can be demotivating. Again, just find out what you needed to learn and then find the next opportunity and go for that.
Tips from the Overview Auditioner.
10. Understanding who we are is indeed a valuable thing. Knowing what we want our art to say and how we want to say it is part of the process. Answer the question, ‘Why do I like what I do? and what does it mean to me?’
11. Building a plan which includes a number of different approaches is really important. Centring any plan around ONE audition is not a good plan. You need to learn from auditions and you’ll need experience, unless you are Billy Elliot.
12. Know the real reasons why you are going for a particular audition. It is ok NOT to audition and say no to some opportunities. Ask yourself, ‘Is this right for me?’
Tips from the Random Auditioner
13. It is ok to be disappointed. Some of us have elaborate plans to avoid even the possibility of disappointment. Remember it is ok to go for something and not get it and then say, ‘I was gutted about not getting it’ It is ok to be upset. We are upset because we care. There are only two outcomes to a bad experience: Firstly, that we find out more information about how to be more successful next time about a specific opportunity and/or secondly, we have more idea about other opportunities now.
14. Always prepare what you need. Stay focused for an audition and what you need to be able to demonstrate. If you find yourself being distracted ask yourself, ‘Why do I want this? What does it mean for me?’ Then make a cup of tea and get back to preparing.
15. Be early for auditions and plan your transport accordingly. If you find yourself stalling or procrastinating, ask yourself, ‘Why do I want this? What does it mean for me?’
Is X Factor typical of all auditions? I don’t think so. The audition process is often private and a true process to find the best. X-Factor is about entertainment for people at home. All about sensationalism whether it hurts people or exploits them. It is there to sell advertising.
So, what will you audition for and why?
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Performing in the Community
On Day 2, we are looking at more practical ideas to get your musical aspirations back on track. Some of us may not be ready to get out there right away as a front person in a band. So, maybe these tips will be good for you?
Joining a Band
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Writing Lyrics
Emailing/Messaging Musician Friends
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Starting a Music Course can be Scary
Starting a new music course can be daunting. At every step of my musical education, I worried if I was going to be good enough and whether I would be able to stay the course. In this short article, I am going to explore some of the fears of starting a music course and offer some solutions which will help.
All the way through taking my very first piano lesson, going to secondary school music lessons, attending my first school choir rehearsal, starting GCSE Music lessons, enrolling on A’ level music, auditioning for the Guildhall School of Music, starting a music degree at University, having my first piano lesson on my degree, starting a PGCE music course and starting a Masters Degree course, I realised that all were cause for major anxiety. I had many sleepless nights before each event and a dull sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach for most of them. Luckily things have changed in the last 5 years and even when enrolling on a Jazz Summer School this year where the tutors were top professional Jazz players from London, I reminded myself of my main purpose, to learn and get better and I felt better.
In my job as Curriculum Coordinator for Music Performance at City of Bath College, we enrol 60 new musicians each year. Many contact the college wishing to have their minds put at ease about approaching their first day.
In my experience musicians tend to worry about:
The list goes on…
How can we overcome first day nerves? – Picture by Ronnie Tucker
Remember that nobody is brilliant at everything. When starting a course, it is very easy to start comparing yourself to others and feeling inferior. Over the years, I started to see that some people show off their skills immediately. What I began to realise was that people show off their best piece and in some cases, it is the only impressive party piece they know! I remember watching a fellow pianist play some Grieg and being totally blown away. Upon telling her how impressed I was, she said that she was really wanting to ask me if I could teach her how to improvise the way I did! You never know what others are really thinking and it made me realise that everyone has something of value to others. There are many more strategies to change the way you feel about your musical ability in The Confident Performer Book.
Uni is expensive. Remember because you are paying, you are the customer.
Paying fees makes you the customer :
It is important to remember that when you are enrolling on a course, you are coming to college/university to learn. Lecturers and teachers are paid in order for you to learn. Their job is to make you succeed. I often refresh this thought when I go on courses that I pay for! In today’s climate, the large sums of money students pay, change the way students think about their courses. Besides, lecturers like good students. Good students are interested and they are reliable.
Be honest and interested and you will be liked by those who are worth knowing. Ask lots of questions about what music other people are playing or singing. Be complimentary about their playing where justified. Never make up false praise, you will only make friends that you will lose quickly. There is a tendency for people to try and make friends with as many people as they can at all cost when they start a course. Giving people false praise in order to appear popular is a bad idea on so many levels. It rarely works out being long-term friendship. Be yourself, be honest and be interested in other people and you will find friends that will last. There are many more tips on making connections and dealing with egos in the Confident Performer book.
It is ok to be reserved.
It is ok to be a little reserved at first. I was incredibly shy when I started my music degree and I was sometimes in awe and overwhelmed by those who appeared very confident. Sometimes other people’s overactive egos are merely a cover for a feeling of lack of self-confidence. It took me a long time to realise that truly confident people often say little and are not always the life and soul of the party. Take time to find out what people like to play and what their musical tastes might be. I have met people I still jam with today in this way. Introversion is not a handicap, it is a gift which generates different focuses. I found that I was able to focus on arranging vocal music for my vocal group which gave us an outlet to be extroverted in a comfortable way. Other people who are naturally extrovert do not always have the patience or focus to arrange music with attention to detail. What is your introverted skill?
Make mistakes and allow yourself to learn. It is impossible to look confident in front of others, all the time. Know that there will be times when you will be called upon to demonstrate something to the group or play something difficult that you will not be able to play. I have lost count of how many times I had trouble playing a piece of music. Be gracious and calm about not being able to play it yet. Remember that if you could play everything that you were going to be asked to play at the beginning of the course, there would be no point in doing the course!
On another note, always pay attention to what the course will require from you. Finding out what is coming up on the course and what you need to practice is the best way to minimise surprise. If in doubt, phone the uni or college to find out what the course contains before you start. So many students do not find out details and wonder why they struggle with the unexpected. There will be times when you will find yourself outside your comfort zone and just remember to smile if you get it wrong. It is ok!
Allow time to practise. It came as no surprise that the musicians who practised often and worked hard, seemed to do better at college and when I became a keyboard player in a blues band. I realised that making excuses for not practising was really no way to proceed. My Father always says that when you are trying to achieve something, be honest when assessing your efforts. Did you really work hard enough to achieve them? Did you give them enough time? I realise that over the years, I did not give enough time to practising and yet I lied to myself about how hard I thought I had worked. It was obvious that others were working harder than me. Do you work hard enough? More tips about practicing can be found in the book.
Also remember that your course is made up of a number of different elements. Sight reading, improvisation or whatever you fear most is probably going to be only a small part of any course. See the bigger picture. Ask yourself, “How much of this activity will contribute to my grades?” I would often calculate this when I had to perform a difficult piece of music in a concert. The answer 4% takes the edge off the worry!
Get to know people’s names
Appearing professional. One of the single most powerful things you can do in the music profession or indeed any profession, is to learn people’s names. Using names as soon as you know them is the best way to establish acceptance from others. It changes how others treat you. For me, as an intrinsically shy person, it took me years to be able to learn a name and then use it immediately. It is such a powerful tool to use in any profession, especially music. Working with other musicians is a time when you need to quickly relax others and yourself so that you can get on with the task of making music. Learning names develops rapport in a quick way. I have also noticed that managers use this tactic to help take control of a situation and instil trust in others. It may be a good strategy if you are expected to lead a band or conduct a group. What would you do with the new found respect of somebody who learns and uses names quickly?
Jamming can make your future. Remember that the people we meet are the people we can work with in the future. There are always opportunities to make music. Take opportunities to jam with the people on your course. Sometimes I jam and make music with my colleagues in our spare time. This is often a way to change my perspective in a creative way and make you feel better about some of the tough situations you may face. Opportunities from some of these jams can be exciting too. I have played many one off gigs with acoustic duos, accompanying singers which have come about from a fun jams. Many of these jams lead to very profitable careers on occasion. Jaques Loussier started jamming Bach at parties as a bit of a musical joke and then made a career out of it.
So in short:
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These are all phrases I have bandied around when I talk to older people about learning music later in life. However, on a Music For You Summer Jazz school in August 2013, I met Sharron Stolarczyk, who by her own admission, came late to playing music at the age of 58 and would certainly disagree with all 3 of the opening statements and is living proof that a musical life begins after 40.
Sharron with The Skipton Community Orchestra
Whilst interviewing Sharron about her experiences of being a later learner, I played the devil’s advocate and asked her whether she learned slower now, than she did when she was younger. Her response was a resounding NO. She said that as she had gotten older, she discovered so much more about HOW she learns. Knowing the way she learns, has dramatically improved her approach and the subsequent progress she made. I was keen to know how Sharron learns now and she described the process which works best for her.
1. Spend some time with a smaller group of musicians where the basics of the music can be worked out.
2. Spend a greater amount of time practising on her own, knowing that what she is practising is right.
3. Go to a full band rehearsal to practise the music in context.
As Sharron explained, until she had found the right way to practice which worked for her and decipher the music, much of her time as a younger learner was completely wasted.
At this point, I asked Sharron about her musical learning experiences as a younger person and she admitted that she had received traumatic piano lessons for a very short time. These lessons did not go well and Sharron’s teacher complained to her parents that she was not practicing. It is interesting that some teacher’s assessments of a students’ musical ability takes little of the individual’s preferences into account. Much later on, Sharron came to realise that it was not her musical ability which was at fault but the fact she was more suited to playing the flute. That was also the instrument that she really wanted to play! Personal preference is a real natural motivator in a student!
Sharron With Dales Jam
Bad experiences in our early years often lead us into believing that we are not musical and that thought can stay with us for our whole lives. Sharron was led to believe that she just wasn’t musical. Some teachers can only teach a certain ‘type’ of pupil and subsequently quickly dispatch students who do not fit into this perfect model. The reputations of such teachers are often perceived as being very good because their results with a very select ‘gifted’ few, are so impressive. Music is for everyone.
Sharron is incredibly busy with her musical projects these days and as a result, was not able to make the Excellent Jazz Summer School this year. She plays with Skipton Community Orchestra and Dales Jam and told me about an incredible film project she was involved with. The project was commissioned by the BBC in 2013 and came to fruition in March of this year. Very exciting for any musician.
I asked Sharron what were the problems that some older learners experienced in bands or on courses. She answered immediately. Some older people make themselves old before their time. They tell themselves they cannot do things and then they start to think and act like they cannot learn new things in a new way. She found working in a band with younger people, absolutely refreshing and a real inspiration and kept her young. Structured practising was also easier for her now she knew how she learned she could practice in the best way for her.
The Half Lotus Position
Our older minds and bodies are often more willing to give us what we need to learn than we think. Many years ago, I spoke to an experimental psychologist about later learning. John Barrett was inspiring. He had worked with older musicians (ages 65 upwards) and realised that their learning ability was only 4% lower than that of a 10 year old. He also told me about his tuition on the sitar. He never thought he would be able sit in the half lotus position at the age of 70 but after 3 weeks, his flexibility increased and he was able to learn without an hindrance. This is news to me. Should I try now?
The evidence supports the fact that we are able to learn at any age if we allow ourselves time and patience to get better. I find her outlook and approach, refreshing. She lives in a musical place where she was constantly on the edge of her comfort zone. It is the thought I took with me to this year’s excellent Music for You Jazz Summer school. I followed her lead and I put myself outside my comfort zone in all areas and pushed myself beyond where I would normally. I will tell you all about it in my next post!
There are plenty of tips in my Confident Performer Book too.
So in short, if you are a later learner,
Samuel T. Herring shows the focus that belief brings
What would it be like if you had 100% belief in what you were doing?
A month ago, my friend and colleague Ben Angel (Lead singer from The Bohemian Embassy) showed me a video performance on Youtube which has really had me thinking about it ever since. In an age of reserved minimalistic singer songwriter performances, this guy, Samuel T. Herring, hit me and nearly 2 million other web surfing people, squarely between the eyes and ears. I experienced the incredible passion and focus of this guy’s performance and I was left thinking, ‘What is this guy singing about? I don’t know, but I know he means it’
A powerful performance is nothing new to me. I grew up in an age where Queen were king and Freddie sang full-pelt at Live Aid. I remember the library footage of Joe Cocker singing ‘With a little help from my friends’ with a vocal tone that would give Robert Plant a run for his money. I recall the archive footage of Janis Joplin singing at Woodstock, giving everything she had. So the performance from Future Islands front man was incredibly powerful but had something different about it. The intense focus of his performance and the incredible belief were 100% mesmerising. His voice is a voice which I would not immediately say was a classic voice but it speaks to me. There is something incredibly honest, open and uninhibited about Samuel T. Herring’s performance which connects with me. His dance moves shout out, ‘Hear what I have to say’ The band (Future Islands) have a different kind of intensity which just seems to enhance the impact of the singer and his performance, something akin to the relationship between Jim Morrison and The Doors. I am not sure what my conclusion is about this amazing performance but I do know I want to see more from these guys. I know that watching somebody perform something they believe in whole-heartedly, is life-affirming. See them in London Hyde Park on July 3rd
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