Richard Bandler (Co-founder of Neuro Linguistic Programming) had a profound effect on my outlook as a musician. He said in his book entitled, “Get the life you want” that we are either getting better or we are getting worse. What does that mean? At one time in my life, I think I would think that it was a dig at the fact I was not a natural performer nor a natural musician. When I realised that I had a choice to take actions that either made me better or take actions that actually made me worse, I felt quite a responsibility. I could no longer blame people for my weak performance as a musician. I was either going to take positive action or take no action, which would actually be negative. If we take no action, we get worse. There is no blame attached to getting worse. Nobody is to blame for you getting worse, it is simply your choice. I can put a lot of energy into blaming those who I feel are responsible for my poor performance, my lack of opportunities, my lack of progress but ultimately, the person most able to make a change in my life is me. I can practice and if I practice in the right way, then I have to get better. We will look at the best way to practice later on.
When you find yourself placing blame about your poor performance, what will you do next, to get better?