Getting better or getting worse?

Richard Bandler (Co-founder of Neuro Linguistic Programming) had a profound effect on my outlook as a musician. He said in his book entitled, “Get the life you want” that we are either getting better or we are getting worse. What does that mean? At one time in my life, I think I would think that it was a dig at the fact I was not a natural performer nor a natural musician. When I realised that I had a choice to take actions that either made me better or take actions that actually made me worse, I felt quite a responsibility. I could no longer blame people for my weak performance as a musician. I was either going to take positive action or take no action, which would actually be negative. If we take no action, we get worse. There is no blame attached to getting worse. Nobody is to blame for you getting worse, it is simply your choice. I can put a lot of energy into blaming those who I feel are responsible for my poor performance, my lack of opportunities, my lack of progress but ultimately, the person most able to make a change in my life is me. I can practice and if I practice in the right way, then I have to get better. We will look at the best way to practice later on.

When you find yourself placing blame about your poor performance, what will you do next, to get better?

About clivemusic

I have taught music, enabling musicians to be confident about performing for over 20 years. I also train teachers and trainers to be confident in the classroom. Keyboard, piano and composing, arranging and singing are my musical loves. I love performing and play Jazz with a Quartet and also sing and direct my own Barbershop Quartet called The Sherlock Combs. I used to be an incredibly nervous performer, suffering from stage fright and through teaching music and learning many mind training techniques, come with me on a journey to confident performing.
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